From Self-Critique to Self-Compassion: Kicking Out Your Inner Bully

Would you talk to your friend that way?

Seriously?

• Would you call them fat?

• Tell them they don’t deserve to take a break?

• Remind them that they aren’t smart enough to get a promotion?

Of course not! You're their biggest cheerleader, lifting them up and reminding them how amazing they are.

But instead of a BFF for a brain, most of you have an inner critic who relentlessly points out your flaws and shortcomings.

And I get it, I do. I used to have an inner mean girl for a roommate.

Until I evicted her.

And I'll tell you how I did it. It wasn't through self-love mantras or positive affirmations.

Nope. I started much smaller. I started by challenging myself to take note of how many times a day I let that hellion torment me with her criticism. Turns out it was 7 times before I even made it a half hour into my day.

After a couple of hours of this, it became clear that something had to give.

Which started me on the path of neutralizing her comments. I decided if I wouldn't say it to a friend, I wouldn't say it to myself.

I'm not going to pretend that this was an overnight shift. It takes time and effort to change the way you think about yourself. But it is possible to silence the inner bully and start to believe in yourself again.

P.S. Want help evicting your inner bully for good? Schedule a free coaching call. You’ll talk, I’ll listen and together we’ll come up with a plan to send your bully packing.