How To Handle A Bad Day At Work

Some days are harder than others

These are the words my friend offered up to her customer at the end of her shift. Back then she was a server at an all night diner. Usually the customers were friendly enough but every once in a while she’d have someone really nasty to deal with.

During the day it was easier to ignore the disagreeable ones. They’d blur into the whirlwind of the lunch crowd. But at night things were quieter, making it harder to forget the verbal sniping.

I had no idea how my friend stayed so calm.

When I asked her she said “I decided a long time ago that people aren’t born angry. Something must have happened that caused their pain. I choose to focus on that instead of the way they treat me”.

I’m going to be honest, I wasn’t particularly enlightened at the time. I was 100% convinced her approach was all wrong.

But, my friend walked through life in a more peaceful manner than I did. She actively chose to think of situations in a way that brought her a sense of calm.

I, on the other hand, was a raging ball of fury and anxiety.

I was convinced that I was a victim to whatever circumstance happened that day. My emotional health was reliant on other people’s actions.

I didn’t think there was another option.

Until I hired my first life coach.

My coach taught me that I could chose how I reacted. Just like my friend did. I could opt to see things differently, gentler and with kindness.

Was it easy at first? Hell no. Not even a little bit.

But over time I got better and better at it. And now it (mostly) comes second nature to me.

It’s a skill I learned and I can teach it to you.

And trust me, you want to learn it.

The time of outsourcing your emotional safety is over. Schedule a coaching consultation. You’ll talk, I’ll listen and together we’ll come up with a plan that will have you feeling better.